The Ability to Negotiate

Not Arguing - Why I'm Right

The ability to negotiate with other people without friction and argument is the outstanding quality of all successful people.

I can’t begin to express how true I find this statement and in contradictory fashion, I’ve begun. Some people are made to argue and they get off on it. Arguments are fuel to their fire and a result can’t happen unless someone wins. These types of people will never take that next step towards enlightenment. What I’ve noticed though is that it’s easy to get caught up when someone is going ballistic and being irrational. You tend to start trying to stay calm, then little by little building up anger, and then you start raging yourself which is falling right in the trap. It’s hard to keep a cool head one the other party is loud and abrasive. Self control when you are deciding on something amongst people is unbelievably important. Once you lose your cool, you’ve already proven that you’ve lost the argument.

I’ve been feeling more at peace with myself as I remember these types of tidbits. Not to let yourself get angered by how other people act. There will always be people giving their two cents but the smart people are the ones who can separate the good from the bullshit. From my travels, I’d urge that you need to understand someone and what they stand for before you start taking their word on ANYTHING. You can tell quickly what type of person someone is by their conversation topics. A fabulous quote:

“Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.”
― Socrates
(I have no idea if this was Socrates but it was cited on a random website)

There are people in life who want nothing more than to work a job, have a family, and be laid to rest. I can’t sit here and say that’s what I want. I have too much ability to lay down without making a mark. It’s a determination of achieving what you want. The hardest question I find is WHAT DO I WANT? Once I can answer that, I can work on getting it. Until then I’ll keep updating this website with ideas that I produce because one of these days someone is going to read this and they are going to be struck by something within rnningfool.com. It might be the stupidest thing I’ve ever come up with but the biggest changes can be made by the most meaningless details. The only thing constant is CHANGE!